when u meet someone new, be it just a casual thing or something more serious, are u completely honest about the number of ur past sexual partners? i was chatting with a guy in his early 20's. and he asked me how many men i had been with. i told him i didnt know offhand but gave him an approximate number. he acted way surprised. that many he says. he has only been with 3 women. he said i was too "experienced" and had changed his mind about getting together. now that made me think. for a 36 yr old woman with a healthy sexual appetite, i dont see it as too many at all. and i actually gave him a low estimate. i have noticed a double standard. it is considered ok for men to have been with a number of women. but not ok for women to have too many sexual partners. so my question is are u always honest or do u lower the number or maybe make it higher? how do u feel about someone who has been with a significant number of people?