when you first meet someone, it could be just a casual fling or more serious, should you be upfront and honest about your past sex partners? I was recently im'ing a guy in his later 20's. He wanted to know how many guys ive been with. Offhand I didnt know but gave him a guess of more than 20 men. He was really shocked at the number, very surprised. That many men he says. He told me hes only been with like 3 women. He told me Iam way to experinced, and did not want to hookup. I started thinking for a 36yr old women a stroung sexual appedtite, i didnt think it was alot, and that was a low ball estimate. I then realized a double standard that its ok for men but not ok for women to sleep around. So my question can you be honest or do you lower the number or raise the number? Are you ok with someone who's been with alot of people?